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The ability to anticipate the needs of a coworker, colleague or boss, and deliver on them before they have verbally asked for them, is indeed a skill that will make you stand out. That is where the tools of How to Read Body Language The Right Way can be extremely effective in the workplace, at school, and even at home. Next time you engage with someone, consider these “tells”.

 

Pay Attention to What is Not Being Said

When we converse with others, engagement is crucial. But when we have those difficult conversations, we need to look for signs other than engagement alone. In fact, disengagement and stress are the most important signals to monitor in the other person’s body language during tough talks.

1. Engagement behaviours indicate interest, receptivity, or agreement:

  • Eye Contact
  • Head Nods
  • Smiles
  • Forward Leans

2. Disengagement behaviours signal that a person is bored, angry, or defensive:

  • Looking Away
  • Leaning Back
  • Arrowed Eyes
  • Frowns

3. Stress signals often accompany bluffing or discomfort with how the negotiation is proceeding:

  • Higher Vocal Tone
  • Face-touching
  • Tightly Crossed Ankles
Look at the Whole Picture

Nonverbal cues occur in what is called “gesture clusters”. That is a group of movements, postures and actions that reinforce a common point. Trying to decipher body language from a single gesture is like trying to find narrative meaning in a single word.

However, when words appear in sentences or gestures in clusters, their meaning becomes clearer. For example, a person’s fidgeting may not mean much by itself. But, if that person is also avoiding eye contact, wringing his hands, and pointing his feet toward the door, you can bet he’s distressed and wants to leave.

A good rule is to look for a combination of a total of three body language signals that reinforce the same nonverbal message.

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Here is an amazing true story of the success achieved from possessing skills to read simple body language. Have a quick read of the following story and you will quite possibly begin to believe in the power of body language

 

It is All in the Small Detail

Andre Agassi had the better of Boris Becker, all because of a “tell” the German had, and he wasn’t aware of it until after he’d retired.

For three years, Andre Agassi agonised over what he needed to do to his game, what approach needed changing up in his quest to beat Boris Becker.

How Boris Becker's slip of the tongue gave Andre Agassi the upper hand in their rivalry | Herald Sun

Between 1988 and 1989, the pair met on three occasions, the German claiming a hat-trick of wins. While not the longest stint for any player to have gone without beating their biggest rival, competition between the pair continued to grow, the spotlight on the pair intensified and so too did Agassi’s obsession with breaking the hoodoo.

And then a breakthrough.

On the hard courts of Indian Wells in 1990, Agassi put a new theory to the test. A small, but ever so important observation he had made after endless hours of watching replays of Becker in action. He watched for the German’s tongue. That’s right, his tongue.

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THE DISCOVERY

“Becker beat me the first three times we played because he had a serve the type of which the game had never seen before” Agassi explains.

“So, I watched tape after tape of him and stood on the other side of that net three different times, and I started to realise he had this weird thing with his tongue.”

“I’m not joking.”

Agassi explained that just before Becker tossed the ball on his serve, he would stick his tongue out. But wait, it gets more telling.

Agassi worked out, if Becker’s tongue went to the left of his mouth he was serving wide towards the tramlines, if it remained in the middle the ball was staying central!

Agassi’s fortunes against Becker improved markedly after he worked out his ‘tell’.

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The discovery transformed Agassi’s record against Becker. In the 11 meetings which followed, the German managed just one victory (Wimbledon semi-final 1995) before ending his career in 1999 with a 4-10 record against the American.

 

DISCRETION

During that time, Agassi says the biggest problem was discretion. He had to allow Becker to win certain points with his thunderous serve in a bid to ensure “his tongue still poked out”.

“The hardest part wasn’t returning his serve,” Agassi said. “The hardest part was not letting him know that I knew this. So I had to resist the temptation of reading his serve for the majority of the match and choose the moment when I was going to use that information.“

I didn’t have a problem breaking his serve, I had a problem hiding the fact I could break it at will, I just didn’t want him keeping that tongue in his mouth.”

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THE REVELATION

Becker retired seven years before Agassi, and it was only once the German was firmly out of the game that the secret was revealed.

Andre Agassi Learned to Beat Boris Becker by Watching Tongue on Serves

“I told Boris after he retired. I told him at Oktoberfest, we had a pint and I couldn’t help but say “do you know you used to do this’

“He fell off the chair”

“He said ‘I used to go home and tell my wife – it’s like he reads my mind’. Little did I know you were just reading my tongue’.”

 

It may sound like an impossible task to study the behaviour. Especially, while conducting a serious conversation at the same time. But remember you have been reading body language all your life. All that is different now is that you are taking this innate but unconscious skill into a level of awareness. And by doing so, you are gaining insight into what the other person is really thinking – and going to do!

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